Talli's blog



What skills are needed for intimate relationships?

Submitted by Talli on Sun, 06/28/2015 - 10:52

This relationship self test, looks at how you rate yourself, as well as how your partner rates you, in some fundamental areas of relationships.


Ten tips for new brides

Submitted by Talli on Mon, 06/08/2015 - 19:48

For the original Times of Israel article click here


Don't be afraid to be vulnerable

Submitted by Talli on Tue, 05/26/2015 - 21:09

"Why do people often shut down in the face of intimacy? Because of an intense fear of vulnerability. Dr. Brene Brown, Professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, explains this phenomenon: “Vacillating between I am here and I love you…and I’m going to reveal my innermost to you…and I am scared to death that you’ll reject me.” Ironically, the vulnerability we try desperately to avoid may be the key to a successful relationship."

 "When you engage religious life with modernity, ultimately modernity wins." says NYTimes columnist Mark Oppenheimer. In talmudic times, people were encouraged to marry off their children at a very young age, such that they did not have to deal with the sexual urges that single people do. Today, people are marrying later. They are engaging in sexual relationships and it is time to have the converstion about it. So say Rabbi Dov Linzer and Batsheva Marcus, who are bravely tackling the reality of sex outside of marriage, in a recent podcast. Much of the discussion involves clarifying what, according to Jewish law, defines the act of sex, and the technicalities of Rabbinic vs Biblical law, such that when an unmarried couple do engage in sex, they can understand the legalities regarding specific sexual acts, use of the mikvah (ritual bath), what is prohibited by the written Torah, and what is prohibited by Rabbinic sources. If you are going to be sexually active, then according to Rabbi Linzer, it is better to transgress a Rabbinic prohibition than a Biblical one.   The best part of this podcast, in my humble opinion, is a fascinating presentation by NYTimes columnist Mark Oppenheimer about how different religions engage with modern sexual norms. Click here to listen to the podcast


When Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men

Submitted by Talli on Mon, 05/18/2015 - 21:41



Rachel Yehuda, Amy Lehrer, and Talli Rosenbaum have published their findings in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, regarding men and women with post-traumatic stress disorder.


Vulvodynia: when the pain isn't all in your head, therapy still helps

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 04/23/2015 - 18:02

Pain is both a physical and emotional experience.


Married, with staying power

Submitted by Talli on Mon, 04/13/2015 - 21:14

"Just the other day, I noticed that my husband had restocked the fridge with my favorite soymilk.......My husband has seen my middle merge into my bottom, but he applauds when I undress"


Creating happiness

Submitted by Talli on Mon, 04/13/2015 - 18:23

Create small pleasure